I used to battle with “likes.” Was I writing to be liked? Did I have enough likes? Oh, somebody likes me…they clicked a like. Finally, I realize that likes are meaningless, and so is my pleasure when I get a lot of likes. We want to be recognized. We want to be in relationship. We want to be affirmed and given some respect for our views that we work so hard to formulate. Nothing wrong with that.
But when I start not liking my likes, then I divide myself against myself because I obviously don’t LIKE myself. So the real LIKE that is important is to LIKE myself whether I get likes or not, or whether I like my likes or not. When I reach this Ground Zero, everything is in balance. Likes or Not, I’m okay.
There’s a rub. No one can know me outside of the writing on FB. How can a column of ants possible hold ME? So the Like is about the writing….Now, when I am my writing, which is the art of writing, then a person like. you as. your invest yourself in your writing. But it ends there. When. you stop writing, the FB reader can’t know you. The writing is the leading edge of you. Put everything into the writing, surrender to the writing, and then people will like more of your with each surrender. But that surrender requires that you don’t write for Likes. If you write for likes, then you are not putting yourself into your writing. You are holding something back, the part that wants to be liked.
All mental pain comes from our dividing. ourself into the Liked and Not liked. The irony is that in order to like ourself by not dividing ourself into the Liked and the Not liked we have to do the same to the world, not divided it into the Liked and Not liked. But the latter comes naturally when we do the former.
Like/Not like is like an onion. We keep peeling back the skins, crying all the while. With each new layer of like/not like, we let it go until we come to the end of the onion, and then the tears turn to joy. The practice is to know the joy in tears of letting go as you let go. It is the tear that can’t be divided.
Many people struggle with the tension between the truth of wanting to be liked and feeling that this is sin of pride. The Transcendent Way (which is the Buddha Way) is the make a leap from this yin/yang of opposites to a greater whole or Self that contains the opposites by leaning to neither one or the other. Choice is suspended to make this leap. The suspension of having to choose between one or the other—and both of which are of equal value—gives you the collected energy necessary to ignite this booster rocker that sends you above the gravity hold of thought and thoughts impossible choices.