Now I remember the Tao which says to lead with the female and follow with the male, which is the opposite of our American mythology.
When you lead with the female you lead with listening, and then you act. When you lead with the male, you act and then listen. The female represents the whole, the whole womb/cosmos so to speak, and the male represents, the individuals in the whole, the heroes of action, but they are always within the field of the Mother, who comes to restore balance. (Avatar)