I go back to Ancient Greece and bull leaping for a guide on leaping over your dilemmas, but a little Buddhism helps also A dilemma is when you can’t choose your way out of a fix, but you must. This creates a feed-back loop of increasing anxiety and paralysis when you can’t choose, especially if someone is watching you in this fix. “How do I open this box?…..No instructions….The other is watching…watching….YOU CAN’T OPEN THAT BOX, CAN. YOU?
The Ego who is the Chooser is paralyzed. We have strategies to get out of a fix. Look for a savior is the most poplar. Another way is to keep at it until you figure out how to open the box, never giving up and asking for help. Or violence is a way out. You throw the box at the person who gave it to you. Why did you give me this damn box!
The Word that heals us is the Word/Action that actually goes directly into the wound of consciousness. What is this wound, I speak of? The wound of Ambiguity, which is a situation where you have no clear and distinct choice because all your options are equal but self cancelling. The Wound is being unable to choose; you can’ choose the cereal your wife sent you for because the list is ambiguous. You can’t open the package because the options are ambiguous, and someone is watching you. The Wound is everywhere. Someone looks at. you and turns you into an IT. The Wound. Someone won’t accept your viewpoint. The Wound.
So what is the Word/Action that heals the wound? When you can’t choose this or that, when you are in a lose/lose situation, what can you do? You make the Choiceless Choice. You do the action that is inaction. You leap over the bull’s horns of dilemma. You leap over morality, you leap over right and wrong, you leap over anxiety, doubt, confusion, all the obstacles…you bypass them by leaping into the unknown of your own being. Trust yourself. You are your own safety net.
Leaping over the Goddess of pairs-of-opposies or Choice is on youtube all the time. Yesterday I watch a youtube of a girl biking in NYC at full speed. No time for choice there. She was moving at a speed faster than choice. She was leaping over the bull. We love these youtube where people create situations where they have to leap faster than choice, faster then calculation, faster than thought even. Faster than the Ego.
The Ego or Little Me can’t move unless the move is calculated, unless options are compared. But to just CHOOSE as your action alone, spontaneously, without script, that’s stepping out there without a parachute.
Bull leaping is a very practical everyday practice. First you find a dilemma where you can’t choose your way out. Every argument is a dilemma when you can’t get the other of blink. We want to leap over the dilemma by. removing one of the horns, the other guy is wrong, my horn is right. But the other says the same thing: two tom cats.
So the first step is recognizing that you are in a dilemma, so you become curious about the structure and the rules of engagement, how this dilemma works. That is your interest now. You want understanding, not the certainty that you are right in your battle with the bull horns. You want to gore the other guy.
So first you find the dilemma. Then you stop fighting it. You become curious about the dilemma as a dilemma. You attention has now shifted from being on the teeter totter of the bull horns to being curious about the bull horns. Now you are on the park bench with the adults watching the kids playing on the horns of the dilemma. This changes everything.