A victim is relationship with an abuser, each is mutually exclusive of the other, yet mutually dependent because you can’t have one without the other. So each side of the dance is caught in a double-bind, out of which they cannot get. The abuser feels abused by the victim; the victim feels abused by the abuser. Identified with these two positions, we actually create the other half of our relationship, unconsciously. There is hidden pleasure in being what we identify as, or else we wouldn’t identify with the heads or tails of this abuser/victim relationship. The relationship is a whirlpool that goes through time sucking all our life into it, but each new episode seems to be a different stand alone relationship that we didn’t see coming, that, in fact, we tried out best not to repeat. But..BAM..there is it. Right back in the whirlpool again.
In the American Lake, which is our collective mind, these whirlpool occur over and over with ritual regularity, sucking up all the news, all the attention of the media until the next one comes along. Everyone is getting exhausted.
The anti-dote to being caught in the victim/victim whirlpool is the totally refusal to play the game anymore. ENOUGH! They victim pools have been rising with the voice of authenticity recently. MeToo women who have had enough of being the victim in the work place; BLM blacks who have had enough of being the victim of police overreach; and now (the new player on the block and perhaps the strongest voice of all) the students who are actually real victims and not faux victims, or arm chair victims.
Real victims seek with an authentic voice of pain that has been transmuted into action. You can feel the lion roar in their Word. These who benefit and profit from the whirlpools of victim identity should be trembling…because they, the abuser are about to become victims of their own political games.
The solution is not to be found in the whirlpool, but in the refusal to get sucked into the whirlpool. This refusal is an authentic voice, because those caught in the whirlpool are inauthentic because they have sold themselves to the identity that is dependent upon the whirlpool.
The Media (through no fault of their own because this is what they do) is the warm waters that feed these whirlpools.