Is it just me or is this the funniest talk I’ve given, or what. I am cloning Rodney Dangerfield. I got no respect. But this talk fits into my larger theme lately about the Power of the Center, and how we loose our center, both individually and collectively, and this creates a Passive Aggressive backlash against the power we believe has stolen our center and power.
When you feel the victim, it’s because you believe someone has stolen your power, and since you have no power, you can only resort to Passive Power or passive aggressive strategies, which creates a hypocrisy. The mind doesn’t know that your action are being aggressive. You say HEY, I’m not Racist…but your action are racist. That is passive aggressive.
When you find a victim, you can be sure that passive aggressive is not far behind.
Home Alone and now the toilet seat can be left up. But wait, it is now a metaphor for the conflict in relationship between men and women. Up or Down is how a teeter totter works. I want to be UP; she wants me to be down, so she can be Up. There can’t be two UPS at the same time. This is classical logic. You can’t have two UPs at the same time. Everything is a single thing that cannot be another thing at the same time. So the Up or Down toilet seat is a metaphor that I just created that points to the larger problem in marriage.
The man wants to be UP and he feels that the woman wants him to be down. She wants to be UP and she feels the man wants her to be down. The teeter totter of marriage conflicts.Both can’t be UP at the same time. Period.
Unless they discover a new paradigm for relationship in which they fall into a Holy Union where both are UP/Down at the same time. This is a discovery that one can sustain and actually rest in Ambiguity. When a relationship has conflict its because both want there to be a clear and distinct Up or Down. I’m UP, you’re Down, or vice versa. The struggle has good intentions, because both want that Holy Union, that marriage made in heaven like it was promised at the wedding vows. So where does the conflict come from? We are using the wrong map!
The map of really that we are using is the one given to us by our materialistic society, the I-IT map where everything, including you, is n object or IT in space/time. On this map we are all just a bunch of ants crawling on a flat map trying to get some where…where are we trying to get..to a perfect of holy union.
But the map we are using is for ITS. The world is an IT so we can manipulate it, fix it, make it better in time. So we quite innocently try to make the relationship better in time by trying to make two ITs become ONE IT…and you can’t do it. You can’t make two things become a ONE thing. This was the science of Alchemy. How do you make duality non-dual? What or where is atonement? You can’t achieve atonement on a map of material things in time. Atonement is never in the future.
This talk is about a different map, a map for relationship, for union, and happiness.