The New Rule (that is an old rule) is Bypass the Dysfunction. If you get in a fight with dysfunction, you become dysfunctional. This is proven to me on FB all the time when I’m give in and get in a dysfunction fight with an person who’s intention is to fight instead of reach understanding. Argument is dysfunctional.
Bypass the Dysfunction means being creative and focusing on that which unifies instead of dividing. But it really means letting go of the Ego and it’s compulsion to react to an attack that divides you from your peace. When wounded, we want to restore peace by removing the imagined cause of our sudden dysfunction—which is losing our inner peace. We seek peace then by going in the wrong direction, into deeper discord and dysfunction.
Therefore, Bypass the Dysfunction is a spiritual practice because Spiritual means undivided or whole, the One without a Second. When confronted with an invitation to become dysfunctional there are three choices or directions: engage the dysfunction and become dysfunctional; turn away and de-friend the dysfunction; or turn toward greater unity through an Idea that spontaneously rises, a creative idea, which is always unifying. Creativity is unifying. That’s how you know the idea is creative. No one ever thought of it in this situation. When you find yourself in a dysfunctional situation, that is an opportunity to become creative or spiritual. But I don’t like the word spiritual because it isn’t practical; it sounds otherworldly, being better.
Being creative is being functional. It’s very simple. And it doesn’t mean creating some work or art, it just means being able to open a strange box you never encountered before.