The Call to Adventure for sure. I divorced my wife in the mid 70s because I could not explore my potential in the relationship. I kept hearing the call of the Goddess. But after a powerful spiritual experience, we got remarried a couple of years later, and I have been working on the adventure of my potential within the relationship. Not that I advise this, but that is what happened to me. The relationship has never become what I imagined a soul mate relationship could be, and I think it has to do with the yearning to be Known. We want to know and be known in the same Eye, we want the relationship to take us our of our separate self, our inclosed, our container. And so that sets up the yearning for the “grass is greener” in the woman next door. So I went through that. I tried the “women next door”, some real rock and roll romance, and they all turned to ashes.
So where is my “Beloved soul mate” if not another person. My Beloved cannot be contained in form because form changes. The Beloved as a person grows warts. One day you will look in the mirror and break out with a laugh. I SEE YOU! I Know You. The Self that transcends the form of our personality is our real Beloved. Find that and you can live with anyone, I assume.
The guiding light, so to speak, is the Intention to find this Beloved, not in this or that person, but in life itself. The whole world can become the Beloved Other. Where can you go that God is not, where the Beloved is not? That is the goal.
When the other person becomes the manifestation of the Beloved for us, one becomes dependent upon the form of that person, and this intoxication cannot last. Romantic love is at best a pointer to what its like to have the whole world as your beloved. To be in love with another persons is a metaphor of being in love with life itself, all life. This is a doorway to beyond, not a closed room where just you and the other person can hide away.
So I wish you luck on your Call to Adventure…the call of the Unknown. Every adventure, no matter how common, is the Great Adventure, made especially for you.
Picking up this thread again…for me my marriage has been my laboratory where I can become aware of my hangups. There is nothing like a wife or husband to push your buttons. The purpose of marriage is transcendence, change, growth, not stagnation, recrimination and boredom. Not all partners can align the relationship with growth. One wants growth the other doesn’t. That’s a problem. But marriage is both hell and heaven…when the intention is to transcend the polarity of the marriage. But I’m not giving advice here, just describing my own life.
But getting back on track here with Trump and his refusal to “sacrifice the Bull from the Sea” we have here a real Shakespearean tragedy on the American history stage. Shakespear’s tragedies are always about a man with a fatal flaw, a person who faces an existential question and fails. His destiny catches him up. He cannot let go of the momentum of his history, the rip tide of his karma carries him out to sea. Trump is such a figure. This is why we are fascinated with him and turned off by him, both at the same time.
All tragic characters are ambiguous in that they hold in their character great contradictory forces. You never know which one is in charge. But with Trump it is clear which force is dominant, the force of darkness.
I’m sure historical novels and non-fiction will be written about Trump in the future. While he is very external, we don’t know what’s really going on inside. But we do know that he is driven by an irresistible yearning to be Number One. Does he want to earn his father’s love? Was his drive formed in childhood. Most drives are.
The other tragedy is that America has to play out its history on Trumps psycho drama. In this way Trump is us and we are Trump. That’s what the role of president is. As captain of our ship, we go down or up with him.