“As long as part of your sense of self is invested in your emotional pain, you will unconsciously resist or sabotage every attempt that you make to heal that pain. When you make an identity for yourself out of the pain, you cannot become free of it. To suddenly see that you are or have been attached to your pain can be quite a shocking realization. The moment you realize this, you have broken the attachment.” Eckhart Tolle
I interpret this Tolle teaching as the birth of Seeing, the birth of the Knower, the awakening of the mind that does not rest or is attached to form. This is Zen, which the Heart Sutra calls Prajna. In Yoga it’s Satchitananda.
The Knower is awakened by the double-bind of pain where no matter what you do or choose, you lose. Seeing the unconscious sabotage is like holding a garden hose on yourself while you blame someone else for the soaking. When we see the Fact that I hosing myself, the hosing stops. There is no gap between Seeing and action. Awakened Seeing is action. Mind and Being are One in the Seeing.
When there is a gap between seeing and action, there is an investment in self as form, as image, and that image itself is the pain of separation from Being which you are as the Now. The greater the gap, the greater the emotional pain.
This “shocking realization” comes as a Snap! In Zen it’s satori. There is no gap or pain in Seeing.