“Non-Surrender hardens your psychological form, hardens the shell of your ego, and so creates a strong sense of separateness. Your relationships will be profoundly changed by surrender, for if you cannot accept what is, by implication you will never be able to accept anybody the way they are.” Eckhart Tolle
This “strong sense of separateness” is the experience of my self, my Me. Unless I resist, I don’t persist. Remember when you were happy, so involved in something that you forgot time. You also forgot your self. But as soon as you look at your watch, you are back with things to do, and you resist This moment in favor of That moment in future.
Resistance to Now divides Now into This and That, a split in time between Present and Future. Buddha says this gap creates time and suffering, the divided mind. Our culture promotes this gap because consumer products are sold to alleviate the pain of the Gap. The fuel that runs our consumer economy is the Suffering of the Gap. Buy this product. You will feel better. (Ed Conley)