“When you complain you make yourself into a victim. When you speak out, you are in your power. So change the situation by taking action or by speaking out if necessary or possible: leave the situation or accept it. All else is madness.” Eckhart Tolle
This is an ambiguous, I find, because What does speak out mean. Attack the one you deem is making you a victim? The three choices here are: (1) speak out (2) leave, (3) accept. Leaving or accepting is clear to me, but “speaking out” is up for interpretation. I take speaking out as being in my power, which means being in my center, in my spot, my immoveable spot. Being a victim is not being in your spot. Being a victim is being in your accuser’s spot, investing your Spot or power in another and then feeling the victim of your own power coming at you from an aggressor. When the bull enters the ring he gives his Spot, his power, to the matador, and then futility tries to take it back.
When the pain body rises, so does victim hood. Someone its the cause of my pain. I complain, a sign the pain-body is feeding. Speaking out from power means addressing the situation from your center and not from pain as the victim of the situation. This is a radical shift in consciousness from being an object (a victim) to being the Subject as center (ME) that does not rest on objects as its center.
In Zen this aroused mind that rests on no form is Prajna, or wisdom mind. When we create ourselves as a victim, we willingly give our power to another, and then blame the other.